Love Isn’t 50/50: The Truth About Showing Up for Your Partner
Love isn’t just about the grand gestures—the flowers, the anniversaries, or the Instagram-worthy moments. It’s about the quiet, everyday choices we make to show up for each other. The small things that build a life together. The moments that no one else sees.
Love is checking in when you know they’ve had a tough day. It’s making their morning coffee just the way they like it. It’s lending a hand when the to-do list feels endless—whether that’s helping with the farm chores, fixing things around the house, or simply being there in the quiet moments.
It’s listening—not just to the big conversations, but to the daily rants, the frustrations, the silly stories that don’t seem to matter but actually do. It’s showing up in the ups and downs, standing steady when life feels uncertain, and accepting every flaw, every imperfection, with kindness and grace.
Love is knowing when they need a moment of space and when they need you right there beside them. It’s celebrating the wins—big and small—and holding each other through the struggles. It’s picking up the slack when the other is exhausted, remembering the little things that bring them joy, and never letting the weight of life make you forget why you chose each other in the first place.
For me, love is having Mick by my side through it all. It’s knowing that no matter how busy life gets, how much the world throws our way, we’re in this together. And in the end, it’s not the grand gestures that hold us together—it’s the quiet, everyday ways we show up for each other.
Partnership isn’t about keeping score. It’s about lifting each other when the weight of the world feels heavy. It’s knowing that sometimes, love isn’t 50/50—it’s 80/20 or even 90/10. Some days, one of you will need more grace, more patience, more understanding. And real love? It will meet you there.
Mick and I have certainly had more than our fair share of life’s challenges. And through it all, it is our love and understanding of each other that has made us stronger and not torn us apart. Love isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being present; it’s more about choosing each other over and over again, even when it’s hard.
This February, as love is in the air, I want to talk about what real love looks like—the deep, lasting kind that doesn’t just survive the years but grows stronger through them.
And I won’t be doing it alone.
Looking Ahead
On February 10, Mick and I are sitting down for a raw, honest conversation about marriage, relationships, and what it really means to show up for each other. We’ll be sharing our own experiences, the lessons we’ve learned, and the things that help us stay connected even in the chaos of life.
So, stay tuned for our next podcast episode this February 10—this one’s straight from the heart. ❤️
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