To the one who feels out of place this Christmas…
The holidays can be complicated when your heart isn’t in it. Sometimes, it feels like everyone else is swept up in the joy and festivities while you’re left quietly holding the weight of your own loss or emotions.
Maybe you’re hosting this year and putting up a tree feels more like a task than a tradition.
Maybe the decorations stay boxed up because they don’t feel right anymore.
Maybe you’re simply going through the motions for the sake of others.
And that’s okay.
Grief changes everything, including how we approach holidays. It’s hard to engage with a celebration that reminds us of what’s missing, who’s missing.
But there’s no rulebook for how you should do Christmas—or if you even have to celebrate at all.
One thing I’ve found helpful is shifting the focus. It doesn’t have to be about the decorations, the gifts, or the traditions that feel too heavy right now.
Instead, it can be about something simpler: 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
Whether it's just a time shared over a meal.
Or a few laughs around the table.
Just being together.
If the idea of 'Christmas' feels too much, let it be a day for what you need—a time to honour your own rhythm, surrounded by people who understand your heart.
Let the rest fade away.
It’s not easy, I know.
But small steps matter.
Even if the tree goes up last-minute or not at all.
Even if the day feels bittersweet.
What’s important is that you’re here, finding your way through, one step at a time.
And remember, you don’t have to do this alone.
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𝙔𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙙𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙚𝙣𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝, 𝙚𝙭𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙡𝙮 𝙖𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚.
