We Don’t Talk About Grief Enough — And It’s More Than You Think
We don’t talk about grief enough.
And when we do, it’s usually wrapped around the loss of a loved one. A funeral. A farewell. A final goodbye.
But grief… grief is so much more than that.
Grief is what happens when something we’ve loved changes or disappears—whether that’s a person, a place, a relationship, or a part of ourselves. It’s the ache that creeps in quietly, even when no one has died.
It’s the tears you fight back when you walk through the empty rooms of a house that once held your laughter, your memories, your life. Maybe it was your childhood home. Maybe it was the place where you raised your kids, or grew into yourself, or simply felt safe. Packing up that home can feel like tearing pages out of a book that’s still being written. It hurts. That’s grief.
It’s the heartbreak of losing a version of yourself. Maybe because of illness, motherhood, burnout, change. Maybe life just didn’t go the way you thought it would. You look in the mirror and wonder, Where did I go? Who am I now?
That’s grief, too.
It’s the silent sting when a friendship fades and there’s no dramatic ending—just space where there used to be connection. That ache in your chest? That’s still grief.
The thing is, we often try to downplay it.
This doesn’t count.
Others have it worse.
I should be over this by now.
But here’s the truth: grief isn’t a competition. It’s a human experience. And your grief—no matter what form it takes—is valid.
Your grief is real. Your pain is valid. Whether it’s loud or quiet, messy or neatly tucked away—it matters.
There is no “grief hierarchy.” No scoreboard. Just real people navigating real feelings.
So how do we cope with this kind of grief?
Here are a few gentle ways to begin:
🌸 Name it
Grief doesn’t just show up in death. It shows up in changes, goodbyes, and even in personal growth. Naming what you’re feeling helps it feel real—and helps you feel seen.
🌸 Give yourself permission to feel
You don’t have to “fix” it or rush through it. Emotions aren’t problems to solve—they’re messengers. Let yourself feel sadness, anger, confusion, even relief. It’s all part of the process.
🌸 Create space for reflection
Write. Walk. Cry in the shower. Make a photo album. Find small, sacred ways to honour what you’ve lost, and what you’re learning. That version of you or that chapter of life mattered.
🌸 Talk to someone who gets it
You’re not meant to carry grief alone. Whether it’s a friend, a support group, or a professional—talking about it lightens the load. Sometimes just saying “I miss the life I thought I’d have” out loud is healing.
🌸 Start rebuilding your inner resilience
Grief can feel like everything’s been torn down—but from that rubble, you can gently rebuild. Bit by bit. Breath by breath. You are still here. And that matters.
You don’t have to do it alone.
If you’re navigating this kind of quiet grief—the kind that doesn’t always have words—I’d love to invite you to a special FREE masterclass I’m running this April.
It's a safe space to talk about grief, identity, healing, and how to reconnect with yourself—gently, and in your own time.
📅 Date: Wednesday, April 30
🕘 Time: 4:00PM AEDT
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Because your story matters.
Your healing matters.
And you're not alone in this.
So if you’re grieving something today that doesn’t have a name, or a funeral, or flowers on a doorstep—please know you’re not alone.
You are allowed to miss the life you had. The people you’ve lost. The dreams that didn’t come true. The parts of yourself that had to be left behind.
Grief is love in a different form. And sometimes, honouring it means simply giving yourself permission to feel. To cry. To remember. To rest.
And most importantly, to heal—gently, and in your own time.
